I trust this is something most of us 50-somethings think about a lot. It's no great secret that one of the burdens of aging is weight - the accumulation of mass.
But what is irritatingly captivating my interest now is not body mass, it's the accumulation of 'stuff' (or, as my husband puts it, 'crap'). Thirty-plus years of adulthood makes you 'fat' - bloated with the weight of physical stuff and emotional responsibilities that make you less nimble and certainly less independent.

So here's the deal: you will accumulate much mass as you age: a very large house, your in-laws' bequests, expensive antique chairs, heavy tarnishing silverware ... things you thought in your youth you just had to have to be happy or that legitimized you as an adult with property. Whatever -- you will curse each and every box of it you move.
Material possessions are the real 'crap' of middle-age accumulated weight. But, here's the irony: though painful, this crap can be surprisingly easy to dislodge and take with you.
Not so the accumulated emotional ties, the real weight of life.
The more important and truly precious your hard-worked-for 'acquisition', (your family, your friends, your community), the more impossible it is to take it with you.
I think most of us don't make changes in midlife because we know this is true. So what are you supposed to do?
For some of us born with wanderlust, moving seems a natural progression of life. Standing still is not an option. Personally, I blame our genes-- really! I think (and science bears me out) we are imprinted with certain traits passed on by our forefathers. My husband and I come from immigrant parents so home for us is a concept, not a place.
I'm not saying that everyone should or could feel like we do, and I'm certainly not saying it's easy or even admirable. It's just that at midlife, you kinda know yourself, and I know I travel lightly.
I have a dear friend, let's call her Adel (because that's her name), who is a few years older than me and though she grew up and lives in another country, shares much of my nature. When I first met Adel she was approaching midlife and had already moved twice, not just across three states, but across continents and oceans, alternately leaving behind two of her four sons. At dinner in our well appointed NJ home Adel admired (as I'd secretly hoped she would) our furnishings and rich tableware. We struck it off from the start and I remember still her offhand comment that she "once" too cared about decorating, but that it didn't seem all that important anymore.
So, embrace your midlife 'fat', the one that is important to keep. Let go of the 'crap'.
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